When a grown man says, "I have not spoken to anyone about my father's death, my inner soldier says, be strong and do not cry, that is a woman's business! And adds, "but I feel anything but strong, I'm tired and feel like I'm in over my head. I resort to alcohol too often as a distraction. I don't like it.” Then he was probably denied a lot of things in his childhood that were supposed to serve to toughen him up.

The same applies to a woman who says, "I have so much anger inside me, I don't know where to put it and yet I can't set boundaries. I just can't get the words out of my mouth. This inner restlessness makes me sleep badly and then I get up at night and eat". As we get to the bottom of this, a sentence comes up that she heard over and over again as a child. "You see girls, but you don't hear them."

Why do these sentences cause blockages in children, which can often be very distressing in adult life?